They (insert your own definition of they) say becoming a parent changes you. I suppose that is true, for most folks. The problem that I have is that I also turned thirty shortly after becoming a parent. I suppose both of those things connected have influenced my thoughts. To be frank, I cannot determine which one has changed me more.
There is no doubt in my mind that when a person enters into this thing called parenthood that they really did not know what to expect. You can prepare for it as best you can. You can read all the books, listen to the podcasts, and hear from your coworkers, but you cannot know the actual feeling until it happens. When it happens it seems like you look at the brevity of life more. You see decisions that you make through a new lens. You are more aware of the impact your life is having on the world.
Turning thirty is one of those weird milestones for society. Prior to that it seems like society still treats you as a child. You can serve in the military, risk your life enforcing the law, and wire millions of dollars around the nation to keep the economy flowing, but you have not reached the age that makes you an adult. Having made it half way to thirty-one I have seen a shift in my perspective. For me, I do not think the shift happened last October, but rather it occurred a couple of years before. I do believe it was more of a gradual thing. It is not something that you wake up one morning and feel different. Things gradually slide in the direction of having a different perspective to where when it happens you cannot pinpoint an exact time of change.
I am confident that there are other stages that change a person. I know I will continue to change each and every day I am alive. This is only the beginning of my thoughts on the subject.
Have you noticed a change of perspective of your life? When did it happen? Do you agree that the changes listed above influence your outlook on life? If you haven’t experienced either of these, can you think of another time when your outlook on life has changed?